Getting to Know You

Lessons in Early Relational Health from Infants and Caregivers
Using narrative storytelling and clinical insights, this guide unpacks early relational health by challenging quick-fix approaches. It advocates genuine listening and suspended expectations to deepen connections among practitioners, caregivers, and infants, sparking growth and healing.

This user-friendly guide uses narrative storytelling to describes the principles of early relational health with direct application to day-to-day work with infants and parents.

Practitioners on the front lines often feel great pressure to know "what to do" in a wide range of challenging situations. Drawing on both developmental science and extensive clinical experience, Dr. Gold provides evidence that the exact opposite—a stance of not-knowing—helps us find our way into another person's experience, offering the greatest opportunity for connection, growth, and healing.

Gold presents a model of "listening in" with an intentional suspension of expectations and a willingness to be surprised. The paradigm of listening in functions as a kind of superpower to enhance teacher–student, professional–parent, and parent–infant relationships. Getting to Know You is important reading for a broad variety of practitioners working with infants, including early childhood educators, home visitors, pediatricians, doulas, and mental health clinicians, as well as policymakers, parents, and other caregivers.

Book Features:

• Summarizes the key advances in our understanding of brain science, child development, and infant-parent mental health.
• Emphasizes lessons from real-life interactions between infants and caregivers as communicated through detailed clinical vignettes.
• Offers practitioners a model for listening that is rooted in the concept of cultural humility and the idea that even in sameness there is difference.

Contributor: Junlei Li (Foreword by), Lisa Matter (Afterword by), Hoda Shawky (Afterword by)

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