Understanding the Orientation Beneath Relationship Structure
An entirely new framework for understanding human relational identity which reframes the relationship conversation around orientation, not behaviour.

Gamogamy: A Framework for Relational Identity is a groundbreaking new book that changes the way we understand love, intimacy, and connection.

In a world that divides us into “monogamous” or “polyamorous,” Gamogamy offers something radically different: a model based on orientation, not behaviour. It introduces a powerful new vocabulary… monogamous, ambigamous, and multigamous, to help individuals make sense of their inner relational wiring, regardless of how they currently live or love.

Whether you’ve struggled to feel at home in monogamy, found yourself thriving in open dynamics, or felt torn between loyalty and longing, Gamogamy helps explain why. It unpacks the difference between instinct and identity, behaviour and structure, and offers a compassionate lens for people whose needs don’t fit traditional moulds.

With vivid examples, clear definitions, and thought-provoking insights, this book is both a personal revelation and a cultural challenge. It’s not about how to do relationships, it’s about how to understand yourself within them.

Perfect for those in therapy, questioning long-term partnerships, or simply curious about how human connection really works, Gamogamy is a timely and transformative guide for anyone ready to step beyond inherited scripts and claim a relationship model that truly fits.