How to be You

Say Goodbye to Should, Would and Could So That You Can

The feel-good book packed with practical tips, hacks and habits to learn how to work with your neurodivergent brain, not against it - from the author of the smash-hit book on ADHD, autism and neurodivergence, UNMASKED.

‘The book truly changed my life… a must read for newly diagnosed neurodivergent people!’ 5-star reader review

Following on from her acclaimed book, unmasked, autistic and ADHD creator, writer and consultant Ellie Middleton returns with the empowering and practical guide to break free from expectation and be more you.

In each chapter, she writes about the eight executive functions that neurodivergent people struggle with including working memory, prioritisation and emotional regulation.

Written in easy-to-read, bite-sized chunks whizzy brains like hers, Ellie shares 40 simple tips for readers to try out, including:
· Creating a launch pad to remember the essentials when you leave the house
· Drawing a car park of ideas to help visualise your thoughts and manage impulse control
· The 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 mindfulness technique to prevent spiralling and regulate emotions
· Breaking up each day into Four Quadrants to approach every day with more flexibility

This isn’t another journal or planner that claims to organize your entire life (Ellie is the first to admit that she doesn’t have things under control 100% of the time). This also is not a book about how to fit into the neurotypical way of doing things (aka masking).

Instead, Ellie reveals why society tells us that we ‘should’ do things (read: patriarchy, ableism, White supremacy) and shows us how we can all free ourselves of those expectations, feel empowered and, ultimately, be more YOU.

Praise for Ellie Middleton and How to Be You:

'This book will change lives! A cracking read and a must for folks with brains who do things differently' Heidi Mavir, bestselling author of Your Child is Not Broken

'I loved it. I'm so impressed by Ellie's courage and wisdom, this book is comforting and clever, but most of all kind' Daisy Buchanan, author of Insatiable and Careering

‘Reassuring, liberating and empowering’ Emma Reed Turrell, psychotherapist and author of Please Yourself

‘An excellent antidote to all the ‘shoulds’ that neurodivergent people get from society’ 5-star reader review

‘Massively validating and educational’ 5-star reader review

‘Inspiring and insightful’ 5-star reader review

‘A book that everyone should read’ 5-star reader review

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