How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love (As Well As the Ones You Don’t)

A compassionate guide to rage, regulation and repair

"Compassionate, insightful and incredibly practical. Anna Mathur transforms the way we understand anger" - Abby Rawlinson, author of Reclaiming You

Your rage isn't a character flaw. It's a message.

You didn’t used to be like this, did you?

The sharp words, the slammed drawer, the guilt that follows. I’ve been there too – wondering how I became someone who snaps at the people I love the most.

What if I told you that your anger isn’t bad and it isn’t something you need to hide? For too long we’ve been taught to bottle it up, to keep smiling, to push it down. But anger is normal. Anger is necessary. And when you understand it, anger can become one of your greatest allies.

In this book, I’ll help you to see rage differently, not as something shameful, but as a signal of what you need. We’ll explore where it comes from, how to catch it sooner, to repair faster, and to use its energy to create change rather than damage.

Your anger doesn’t make you broken, it makes you human. And when you learn to listen to it, rage can become one of your greatest sources of power, protection and connection.

"Essential reading for all recovering people-pleasers!" - Emma Reed Turrell, author of What Am I Missing?

"A compassionate and insightful book that brings understanding to a subject so often misunderstood and wrapped in shame" - Simon Gilham, author of Stop Lying to Yourself

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