A Letter to My Transgender Daughter

A mother's love letter to her trans daughter and the illuminating story of one family’s experience of having a trans child and sibling.

A parent’s deeply moving love letter to a daughter who has always known exactly who she is.

‘Stunning . Built like a thriller, moving, wise and illuminated on every page with love’ - Joanne Harris, author of Chocolat

When Carolyn Hays’s child made clear to the family that they were all wrong, he was not a boy, but, in fact, a girl, the Hays shifted pronouns, adopted a nickname and encouraged her to dress as she felt comfortable.

One ordinary day, a caseworker from the Department of Children and Families knocked on their door to investigate an anonymous complaint about the upbringing of their transgender child. It was this threat that instilled in them a deep-seated fear for their child’s safety in the Republican state they called home. And so they uprooted their lives to the more trans-accepting Northeast United States, though they were never far from the hate and fear resting at the nation’s core.

Intimate and thought-provoking, A Letter to My Transgender Daughter is an ode to Hays’s brilliant, brave child. It tells of the brutal truths of being trans, of the sacrificial nature of motherhood, and of the lengths a family will go to shield their youngest from the cruel realities of the world. Hays asks us all to love better, for children everywhere enduring injustice and prejudice just as they begin to understand themselves.

A Letter to My Transgender Daughter is a celebration of difference, a plea for empathy, a hope for a better future, but moreover, it is a love letter to a child who has always known herself and is waiting for the rest of the world to catch up.

Originally published as A Girlhood: A Letter to My Transgender Daughter

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