{"product_id":"9781035424368-the-cost-of-quiet","title":"The Cost of Quiet","description":"\u003cmeta content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\" http-equiv=\"Content-Type\"\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eHow to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAn empowering, healing guide that reveals the true cost of avoidant behaviour\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003e in a relationship - disconnection, disengagement and divorce - \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eand shows how\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003e we can learn to speak up and start connecting with the ones we love\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003e most.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eAn empowering, healing guide that reveals the true cost of avoidant behaviour in a relationship - disconnection, disengagement, and divorce - and shows how we can instead learn to speak up and start connecting with the ones we love most.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cbr\u003e'I wish I had spoken up sooner.'\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePeople think relationships fail because of deal breakers like infidelity, finances, or parenting problems. But the real culprit is often much less dramatic: emotional disconnection after years of staying silent and avoiding conflict. We're afraid to say what we need because we worry about what will come next. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAvoidant behaviour - the need to 'keep the peace' rather than dealing with conflict head on - isn't our fault. Our ingrained attachment wiring urges us to sidestep day-to-day disputes and brush lingering problems under the rug. But silence is a losing proposition in the long term, leading us to self-abandon and essentially 'quiet quit' our relationships. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe can make another choice. In \u003ci\u003eThe Cost of Quiet\u003c\/i\u003e, licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr shines a light on the epidemic of avoidant behaviour and how to overcome it. Drawing from the latest attachment science and evidence-based therapies she's used to repair the bond between hundreds of couples, Fehr gives us the tools to approach those we love with openness, honesty and vulnerability. The ultimate goal:  a securely attached relationship that engages with conflict productively, and the confidence that comes from speaking up and being heard - because a good relationship is worth fighting for.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Rarewaves","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":56403314409846,"sku":"9781035424368","price":14.48,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0092\/7504\/8033\/files\/orig_38928159.jpg?v=1764822887","url":"https:\/\/www.rarewaves.com\/products\/9781035424368-the-cost-of-quiet","provider":"Rarewaves.com","version":"1.0","type":"link"}